A belief is a thought you have chosen to think, over & over again.
What thoughts are you choosing to believe about YOU?
I am enough, Just as I am!
Practicing the new thought, "I am enough just as I am," is a critical part of healing from betrayal trauma, abuse, or divorce.
Betrayal can deeply rupture your sense of self-worth, value, and lovability.
Believing that YOU ARE ENOUGH, regardless of your circumstances or someone else’s actions, is a powerful step toward healing those deep wounds.
It can also feel impossible to believe right now. I get it.
Whether you stay in the relationship or not, this is foundational to your healing. Learning how to not just think it but actually feel the truth of it takes time, intention, and practice.
I am the Chooser in my life.
You didn’t choose your trauma, and you didn’t choose betrayal or divorce to be part of your future.
There are many losses and things outside of your control, and that can feel incredibly powerless.
Stepping into healing begins with stepping into empowerment.
Start making choices in the areas where you do have control.
Being the CHOOSER in your life can also feel scary. That’s okay.
Let’s begin by consciously choosing things that are less emotionally activating.
For example, you can practice being the CHOOSER by deciding what you eat, when you go to sleep, or choosing to take a bath. These small choices help rebuild your sense of power.
Believing that you can choose starts with practicing the language of choice.
If I could trust myself here, and know that I've got my back, what would I do?
This practice thought is a powerful and empowering tool for rebuilding SELF-TRUST after betrayal.
It can help bridge the gap between fear and the difficulty of trusting yourself again.
When betrayal shatters your trust in others—and in yourself—it can feel overwhelming to take steps forward or make decisions.
The deep impact of betrayal often causes us to question our judgment and intuition, leaving us hesitant and unsure.
But healing begins here.
Believing that you can trust again starts with learning to trust YOURSELF first.
I'm only in charge of MY business
The practice thought, "I'm only in charge of my business," is a powerful concept from Byron Katie that can create a profound shift in perspective and mindset.
It reminds us that there are only three kinds of business in the world: your business, other people's business, and God's business.
This can feel hard, scary, and even unsafe—especially when others are saying things about you or to your children that are simply not true. I get it.
But here's the truth.
Believing that what you think and feel is what truly matters is what sets you up for healing, freedom, and peace.
This is how you take your power back and reclaim your inner calm.
Its okay to FEEL my feelings
The practice thought, "It's OK to feel my feelings," is a powerful and liberating affirmation that can help you develop healthier emotional maturity. We often resist, react or avoid these harder or more 'negative' experiences.
Emotions are neither good, bad, right, or wrong. FEELING is HEALING.
Believing that it's OK to FEEL in your body all the emotions that are there, allows you to process them in a healthy way leading you to growth and empowerment.
Stop. Breath. GO!
The practice thought, " Stop. Breath. GO!" is a great one to remind you to SLOW DOWN!
Healing can't happen when you run your central nervous system into the ground!
It's hard to stop when you believe that if you do, it will all come crashing down. I get it.
Believing that you can STOP for a moment and wiggle your toes, name a few colors in sight. Take a deep BREATH or two and expand the belly allowing for you brain to get more oxygen. Then GO forward one step at a time with a little bit more grounding and intention.
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