Reconnecting with YOU in 2025

"So, this year, instead of making resolutions about what to do, let’s focus on who to be. And let’s start with being someone who’s deeply connected to themselves."

Everywhere you look, the world is shouting about New Year’s resolutions. “Set goals! Be better! Reinvent yourself!” But for those of us who’ve been through betrayal, abuse, or divorce, January might feel less like a time for resolutions and more like a time to ask, Who am I?

If you’ve found yourself feeling disconnected from who you are—lost, unsure, or even unrecognizable to yourself—you’re not alone. Betrayal doesn’t just break trust; it breaks the connection we have with ourselves. Abuse and loss can leave us questioning everything—our decisions, our worth, even the core of our identity.

This disconnection happens for a reason. Maybe you’ve spent years focused on meeting others’ needs, trying to keep the peace, or surviving a situation that drained you. Over time, you might lose sight of what you want, what you value, and who you are.

But here’s the good news: you can reconnect. You can rebuild that relationship with yourself. And as you do, you’ll start to see how that connection is the foundation for everything else—your healing, your confidence, your future relationships, and your joy.

A New Kind of Resolution

So, this year, instead of making resolutions about what to do, let’s focus on who to be. And let’s start with being someone who’s deeply connected to themselves.

That’s exactly what my self-paced course, The 7 Levels of Intimacy Within Yourself, is designed to help you do. It walks you through what it really means to know yourself, to trust yourself, and to treat yourself with the kind of care and respect you deserve.

The course takes you step by step through seven layers of connection, from understanding your emotions and setting boundaries to exploring what brings you joy and learning what healthy looks like—for you. Because when you cultivate intimacy with yourself first, you lay the groundwork for healthy, fulfilling relationships in the future.

Three Things You Can Do This Month to Reconnect With Yourself

You don’t need to wait to start this journey. Here are three small but powerful things you can do this month to start reconnecting with yourself:

1. Ask Yourself: “What Do I Need Right Now?”

This question might sound simple, but it’s transformative. After years of putting others’ needs first, it’s easy to lose sight of what you need. Pause throughout the day and ask yourself this question without judgment. Maybe you need rest, a walk outside, or simply five minutes to breathe. Start by listening to yourself.

2. Revisit Something That Used to Bring You Joy

Think back to a hobby, interest, or activity you used to love before life got complicated. Did you love painting, reading, baking, or dancing? Revisit it—even if it’s just for a few minutes—and see how it feels to reconnect with that part of yourself.

3. Practice Self-Kindness in Your Words

Pay attention to your inner dialogue this month. When self-doubt or criticism creeps in, ask yourself, “Would I say this to a friend?” If not, replace those words with something kinder and more compassionate. Healing starts with treating yourself like someone worthy of love—because you are.

This Year Is About You

This January, let’s set aside the noise of the world telling you to “fix” yourself or become someone new. You’re not broken, and you don’t need fixing. What you need is reconnection—to the person you already are, the one who’s strong, resilient, and worthy of healing.

You don’t have to do it all at once, and you don’t have to do it alone. If you’re ready to take deeper steps in rebuilding that connection, I’d love for you to explore The 7 Levels of Intimacy Within Yourself and see how it can guide you toward feeling whole again.

Wishing you love, grace, and the courage to reconnect this month,

XO,

Amie