How the Alexander Technique Can Help You Heal After Betrayal and Divorce

Healing Betrayal and Divorce Starts in the Body

After betrayal or divorce, many women expect to feel emotional pain—but they’re often surprised by how much their body also reacts.

Maybe you’ve noticed a tightness in your chest, tension in your jaw, or a general feeling of numbness and disconnection. These aren’t just passing sensations. They’re physical signs of unresolved trauma, and they often linger even after the relationship has ended.

Here’s something that might surprise you: healing from betrayal and divorce isn’t only about talking through your pain—it’s about reconnecting with your body.

That’s why I integrate somatic practices like the Alexander Technique into my trauma recovery work. Because your body is part of your story—and also part of your healing.

What Is the Alexander Technique?

The Alexander Technique is a gentle yet powerful method that teaches you how to become more aware of your body, release habitual tension, and improve alignment, posture, and presence.

Originally used by performers and professionals to reduce strain and improve movement, the technique has proven deeply beneficial in trauma recovery as well—especially after experiences like emotional abuse, betrayal, or divorce.

It’s not about “fixing” your posture—it’s about learning to stop bracing against life and start trusting your body again.

Why Somatic Work Matters in Trauma Recovery

As trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk reminds us in The Body Keeps the Score—“The body keeps the score.”

When you go through betrayal or abuse, your nervous system is affected. You might go into fight, flight, or freeze mode—and those patterns can get stuck in your muscles, breath, and nervous system.

• You may hold your shoulders tightly as if always bracing for the next blow.

• You may clench your jaw, even in sleep.

• You may feel completely numb to sensation as a form of self-protection.

Talk therapy can help you understand your story. But somatic work—like the Alexander Technique—helps you release the trauma your body has stored.

How the Alexander Technique Helps After Betrayal or Divorce

When combined with other trauma-informed modalities like Brainspotting, the Alexander Technique offers a unique and powerful healing experience.

Here’s how it supports your recovery:

1. Releases Chronic Tension

The technique helps identify and unwind the tension patterns you’ve been carrying—many of which developed as coping mechanisms during the relationship.

2. Restores Mind-Body Connection

You learn to be present in your body without judgment or fear—helping you rebuild trust with yourself and reconnect to your internal wisdom.

3. Supports Emotional Regulation

Physical release often leads to emotional release. As your body learns it’s safe to relax, your emotions become more manageable, and your confidence grows.

4. Encourages Empowered Movement

Instead of shrinking, you begin to move through life with more ease, clarity, and self-awareness. This is especially empowering post-divorce, when you're reestablishing your independence.

💬 Clients often say they feel lighter, more grounded, and more aligned—both emotionally and physically—after sessions.

Why I Combine Brainspotting and the Alexander Technique

In my work as a Certified Brainspotting Practitioner, I’ve found that the Alexander Technique complements Brainspotting beautifully. Brainspotting works on the brain-body connection by helping you access and release stored trauma through the eyes and nervous system. The Alexander Technique brings that healing into the body with conscious awareness and release.

Together, they help you:

• Process trauma at both the mental and physical levels

• Regain a sense of safety within yourself

• Move forward with more clarity, energy, and self-trust

You Deserve to Feel Whole Again

If you’ve gone through betrayal, divorce, or emotional abuse, it’s not just your heart that’s hurting—your body is asking for healing, too.

The Alexander Technique is a gentle, supportive practice that can help you return home to yourself. Combined with trauma-informed coaching and Brainspotting, it’s one of the most powerful tools available to those ready to reclaim their lives.

Are you ready to stop carrying the tension of your past—and start moving with more peace, presence, and power?

Let’s talk. I’d love to support you.

👉 Schedule a consultation with me today

Explore Additional Healing Resources

Whether you're newly separated, in the midst of divorce, or navigating life after betrayal, you don't have to walk this path alone. Here are supportive offerings designed to meet you where you are:

• 💛 Believing In You Coaching Membership – Group coaching for every stage of your healing journey

• 💛 Brainspotting Sessions – One-on-one trauma release and nervous system regulation

• 💛 Free Monthly Divorce Q&A – Live on the first Thursday of each month

• 💛 Intimacy Within Self-Paced Course – Reconnect with your body and intimacy after betrayal

• 💛 Should I Stay or Go? Self-Paced Course – Get clarity in your relationship decisions

• 💛 Dating From Within Workshop – Heal and date from a place of self-trust and strength

• 💛 The Empowered Divorce Podcast – Ongoing inspiration and education

• 💛 Abuse Support Services – For those healing from emotionally or physically abusive relationships

Final Thoughts

Betrayal and divorce can leave you feeling fragmented—emotionally and physically. But true healing happens when you begin to listen to the messages your body is sending, and take the courageous step to care for it.

Through somatic healing practices like the Alexander Technique, you can release what’s been stored, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and move forward with strength, softness, and self-trust.

You don’t have to carry it all forever. You can heal—and you don’t have to do it alone.

With love and belief in your healing,

Amie Woolsey
Certified Brainspotting Practitioner, CPC, PCC, APSATS-CPC